Child development chart: Behavior management

Ross Woods, 2012, rev. 2021, adapted from Community Services Training Package

This chart was first developed for childcare workers. It might not always be suitable for other purposes.

  Babies Toddlers 3 to 5 year olds 6 to 12 year olds
Methods to promote positive behaviour • Smiles
• Attention
• Distraction
• Choice of favourite activity
• Praise, encouragement
• Anticipating trouble and redirecting or distracting child
• Choice of favourite activity
• Praise, encouragement
• Anticipating trouble and redirecting or distracting child
• Non-verbal communication appropriate to age and peer group
• Talking about feelings
• Modelling
Ways of applying guidelines and limits to behaviour • Saying 'no' and using the child's name e.g. 'James, no' with use of appropriate facial expressions and tone of voice
• Remove child from problem/ trouble
• Distract to another activity
• Patiently respond, provide a consistent message
• Acknowledge feelings
• Provide appropriate activities to release feelings
• Explain reason for limit to child in simple terms
• Communicate the guidelines of the service clearly
• Provide a consistent message
• Acknowledge feelings
• Provide appropriate activities to release feelings
• Discuss with children e.g. About the reason the guideline is required
• Involve children in establishing guidelines
• Give written guidelines to children
• Periodically review guidelines
Positive communication with children • Worker responds to non-verbal cues and decides whether a response is required
• Initiation or reflection of babbling and cooing
• Responds to crying in ways that meets the babies need
• Worker responds to non-verbal cues and decides whether a response is required
• Initiation or reflection of babbling and cooing
• Responds to crying in ways that meets the babies need
• Conversations during routines and experiences • Interactions are more reciprocal
• Communication focuses on events that are important
• Interactions are often informal in nature
The way to demonstrate positive and realistic expectations of children's behaviour • Smiling
• Clapping verbal and non-verbal approval
• Modelling
• Repetition of guidance for appropriate behaviour e.g. 'we walk inside'
• Talking about appropriate behaviour
Explain the reasons for guidelines Involve children in establishing guidelines
Communicate guidelines
to:
• Children, especially those new to the service
• Parents
• Potential users of the service
• Relief or other staff
Ways of fostering the development of self-help skills • Encourage responding to matching while dressing/undressing e.g. arm to sleeve
• Through care routines and daily experiences
• Provide enough time e.g. Undressing before rest
• Encourage efforts
• Children may choose from a range of clothes
• Give support when necessary
• Encourage all attempts at self help
• Give children opportunities to learn to fasten their shoes
• Store clothes so that they are accessible to children
• Store personal belongings accessibly
• Explanation
• Demonstration
• Debate and discussion
• Participate jointly in task
• Use written instructions
Ways of facilitating play • Flexible routines to allow for the needs of individuals to be met
• Gentle handling, eye contact and appropriate sensory experiences to develop security and trust
• Safe environment to explore
• The day is structured and routines are established
• Blocks of time are available for exploring and experimenting with the materials
• Caregivers introduce new and different experiences to children
• Extend play by introducing new materials or resources or suggesting alternative ways to use the materials
• Caregivers give children time to develop their ideas
• Transition from one activity to another is smooth
• Worker modelling play and use of equipment
• Care giver's interactions provide a positive role model for children
• An environment is maintained that respects individual and group needs
• Children are aware of the limits that are applied consistently
• Children's feelings are acknowledged and respected by caregivers and children
• Participation with children
• Materials are suggested or alternatives uses of equipment/materials are suggested
• Cycling
• A variety of indoor and outdoor activities for all ages
Creative and challenging experiences • Selection of toys, different textures, colours and size are selected
• Toys are large (cannot be swallowed) and have no sharp edges, and easily washed/cleaned
• Different types of experiences are used e.g. Water play, sand play, outdoors time
• Experiences can include indoor and outdoor experiences
• Experiences reflect a toddler's interest in the world around them, and the desire to explore it, feel it, see it and touch it e.g. Nature walk to look at leaves, collect them
• Experiences reflect a toddler's growing mastery of their own body e.g. Small slippery dips are used, outdoor area can be a little more involved
• Experiences can include cooking, sewing, carpentry, washing
• Experiences can be more varied and complicated, and reflect a child's developing cognitive and physical abilities
• Choice not to participate is respected and alternative activity is negotiated
• Experience planned may include specific suggestions of children themselves
• Development of hobbies
• Self selected peer groups
• Individual, small group and larger group experiences
• Choice not to participate is respected and alternative activity is negotiated